Reading someone's cancer diary is usually depressing and heartbreaking, and, if you're like me, scary, because you eventually start worrying that you'll soon be going through the same thing. So you'll be happy to know that this cancer diary isn't the kind where the patient has months to live and gets weaker by the day until there are no more posts, and you end up sobbing over someone you never met.
October, 2015. My doctor's office has been sending me letters and robo-calling me for weeks to inform me that I need to make an appointment. No specifics, like it's time for your rabies shot, just get in here, we haven't seen you in months, and business is a little slow, and you could have a disease with no symptoms and we prefer healthy patients because we don't have to worry about getting their diseases and now's the perfect time, unless you think you might have Ebola, in which case, never mind. So screw it. If I make an appointment, they win. On the other hand, the only way to get them off my back is to make an appointment, so I do. Fuckers.
November 3, 2015. My appointment. I've brought a list of everything that's wrong with me so the visit won't be a waste of time. My nose is reddish, my lips have a blue tint, I have what I think is a skin tag on my neck and a small area under my eye that I think is a chalazion. I made that diagnosis after looking up "sty" on the internet, and finding it was similar to a chalazion, which I'd never heard of, but when I Googled "lower lid chalazion" and clicked on "images", a few of the less-gross pictures resembled what I had. Anyway, chalazions usually go away by themselves, though they can hang around for months. My doctor doesn't care about my red nose or blue lips or skin tag, but he gives me the phone number of a dermatology clinic, telling me to have my eye thing looked at, as it might be something. I think he mentioned the word "squamous" in there. He doesn't seem overly concerned. He doesn't say, Get thee to a surgery.
November 4, 2015. I phone to make my dermatological appointment. The person I speak to says there's one opening next week, so I say I'll take it, and she comes back a minute later and says someone else beat her to it and the next available opening is November 30. I'm thinking, November 30? I could be dying of cancer and you're booked solid for a month? You need to hire more doctors if business is that good. Maybe you should open on Saturdays until you get caught up. I take the appointment, figuring if I stall another minute it'll be gone and I'll be pushed into 2016.
November 30, 2015. As I'm being led back to the room where I'll be seen, I can't help noticing that all the nurses and interns and receptionists I pass have perfect skin. I figure they must know what they're doing in this place. They probably treat all their employees for free and pay for it by upping everyone else's bill. Eventually my doctor comes in and asks why I'm here. I mention my red nose and my chalazion. He looks at me through a giant magnifying glass and says, "That doesn't look like a chalazion." I say, "What does it look like?" and he tells me it looks like skin cancer. I argue that it's a chalazion, and that he'd know that, if he'd ever even heard of a chalazion. He searches for chalazion on an iPad and shows me that my chalazion isn't one because it isn't quite touching the eyelid. I'm not sure I buy it, but that's probably because I'm still in the first stage of my cancer diagnosis, which is denial. (The other stages being demanding a second opinion, reluctant acceptance, life passing before your eyes, booking that vacation you've been putting off, pricing burial plots, scheduling a future appointment with a lawyer to change your will cutting out everyone who doesn't visit you when you're in the hospital dying, and getting religion, just in case.) I ask the doctor if I'm gonna live. He says Yes. I'm thinking, Thanks for burying the lede. You couldn't have opened with It looks like easily treatable, run-of-the-mill, harmless skin cancer? He does a biopsy, gives me a prescription for my red nose, which I know will have no effect, and says he'll be in touch with the results.
December 2, 2015. The dermatologist phones, says he was right, it's cancer. Like he would have admitted it if it turned out to be a chalazion. He says I need two operations, the first to remove it and the second to graft some replacement skin in its place. They can remove it in the clinic, but because it's so close to my eye, there's a specialist who'll have to do the graft (something to do with the possibility that the cancer is close to the tear duct), and the specialist doesn't work there so the operations will have to be done on consecutive days in different cities. Finding two consecutive days convenient for the two surgeons apparently proves difficult, but they book me for January 25th and 26th. I'm thinking, Are you people kidding me? That's like two months from now. I got cancer. I can feel it spreading into my pancreas and lymph nodes and lungs, and you can't move me ahead of all the wart treatments and eyebrow tucks and chalazion removals? I say none of this, because I trust that they know what they're doing and because it's not a good idea to antagonize someone who may soon be in a position to "accidentally" stab your eyeball with a scalpel.
January 7, 2016. I have an appointment with the surgeon who's doing the skin graft on the 26th. It's a chance for him to look at my skin and come up with a game plan for the operation. He looks. He tells me the good news is that I have basal cell carcinoma, and it's more a surgical problem than something requiring ongoing treatment like drugs that make your hair fall out. (My hair's been falling out without needing drugs lately anyway.) His assistant takes a couple pictures with her iPhone, probably so she can show them to her friends as examples of the gross stuff she has to look at every day. The surgeon seems like a nice guy. He's there about five minutes during which he does pretty much nothing. Later I'll get his bill for $380.00. Which includes $84 for photography. Woulda been more if I'd ordered the eight by tens.
January 25, 2016. There was a big snowstorm over the weekend, and I was worried they'd call and say the doctor couldn't make it and they'd need to reschedule me for April, but they called Sunday night to say I could show up late if necessary. Which it is, as it takes about forty minutes for an eight-minute drive. After some paperwork and prep, I sit in "the chair." It isn't an operation where they put you to sleep, although I do have my eyes closed the whole time, because the light shining on my face is the approximate brightness of a sun. Not a yellow sun, like ours; a blue sun like Sirius. They numb the area of the
January 26, 2016. I'm late again, this time because of rush-hour traffic. I'm to be put to sleep for this operation, not the mask over the face way, just the IV, like I'd had done for colonoscopies. First I fill out some paperwork where I have to tell them whether I have a living will or a do-not-resuscitate order, etc. And where the possible side effects of the operation are listed, including brain damage and death. I start thinking the skin cancer isn't so bad. My glasses hide most of it and I'd probably die of old age before it got bad enough to kill me, so why risk it? They lead me into a prep area behind a curtain where I have to remove all my clothes even though they're only working on my eye area. Surgeons have learned that patients are less likely to make trouble if they don't have their clothes. At least they give me a warm blanket to lie under. A nurse comes in and asks how I'm doing. I tell her I need her to remove my patch so I can rub and scratch my eye for about ten minutes. It's been itching for days. I wasn't serious, but she looks at me like I'm a giant blood-oozing chalazion. She asks me if I mind a couple people observing the operation. Med students, I assume, or possibly Syrian refugees. I grant permission because it never hurts to have witnesses if you die on the operating table. She starts asking me questions, all of which I answered a couple days earlier when they phoned me, and then she accuses me of looking at her like I think she's crazy. I have a patch over one eye and without my glasses the other eye has blurry vision, so I don't see how she can tell I think she's crazy. She must have ESP. The surgeon comes in, tells me he's going to get the skin for the graft from near my eyelid. The person who was there to put me to sleep finds the IV isn't working because the nurse who hates me put it on wrong. She gets it going, and the next thing I remember it's all over. They let me look at the results. It looks like terrorists attacked me with box cutters. My "wound" and bruising area is about twenty times the size of the cancer.
January 28, 2016. Here's my first-ever selfie:
It looks even worse when I look at it in the mirror because my glasses magnify it. On the other hand it already looks a lot better than it did right after the operation; now it just looks like I've been in a bar fight with Edward Scissorhands.
February 3, 2016. Followup visit. My various concerns, such as I can't open that eye as far as the other one and my vision in that eye is blurry and it feels like there's some kind of bone spur or tumor on the edge of the eye and I look grotesque all get brushed off as temporary. Also, there's still a swollen area about the size of a cigarette butt under my skin, possibly because the surgeon was smoking during the operation and dropped it in and left it there just to amuse the observers and the nurse who hates me. Better a butt than a retractor or a scalpel, I tell myself. As I'm leaving, they stop me because they forgot to take more iPhone pictures. Can't let me get away without that $84 charge on the bill. I'm guessing they want all these pictures to illustrate a textbook on successful skin grafting. Or unsuccessful, depending. They tell me to come back in a month so the surgeon can admire his handiwork and charge me another $380.00. Technically I think I can call myself a cancer survivor.
Congratulations on surviving! Skin cancer is a major killer. Thought that would cheer you up.
Good grief! Glad it was reasonably minor.
Whoa! What an ordeal. You're so lucky they caught that in time! Man, that American medical system is nuts though. I can't believe they charge that much. As long as you're okay though, I guess it's easier to pay back a debt than come back from the dead. Congratulations man, you're a survivor!
Holy shit, EE.
Sorry for your (financial) loss.
*sobs* *blows nose on query letter* *sobs*
Glad to hear everything worked out.
Wow. EE, I couldn't stop reading that, seriously it was scary and hilarious at the same time. You really have a way with words (ever think of getting into the writing/publishing field?). But seriously, I am so glad all ended well. Wow.
Some of my favourite people are ones I never met. Glad you won.
That's one hell of a first selfie. I think you can retire at the top of your selfie game. Very glad to hear the result is what it is. Also, I think Coldplay should change their name to Giant Blood-Oozing Chalazions.
But...but...what about your nose?!
I do think as a near-miss-of-a-tear-duct survivor you're entitled to wear a pink eyepatch when you attend the next Cry for the Cure in your region. Wear it proudly :o)
You have my sympathetic ear.
No idea where you're going to put it, but you have it anyway.
Perhaps you can hang it off Phoenix's eyepatch to cover the other eye when you're reading particularly noxious manuscripts.
Meanwhile, glad you won out, and glad also that we have a selfie after 8 years.
It is cool to know that I am not the only one with an eyeball (not that I have that any more).
Thinking of you, and hoping everything works out.
Coulda been worse. And you have amazing green eyes. Or one green eye, anyway. No telling what the other one looks like.
Glad it ended well. :)
Tell me the cancer story is all a fiction and in reality you got in a bar brawl with Grisham.
And if not, I do wish you a speedy recovery.
So nice to hear from so many old friends of the blog, even if it took almost dying to bring all of you out of the woodwork.
But seriously, while melanoma can quickly spread to other organs and lead to bad things like death, basal cell carcinoma, which is about 90% of skin cancers, is slow-growing and not a big deal if caught early. They just slice it off and replace it with some of that excess skin that would be removed if you had a skin-removing procedure like a facelift. If you're gonna get cancer, I highly recommend basal cell. Also, if you've been exposed to a lot of sun over the years or have been shot with a ray gun, an occasional visit to a dermatologist may be in order. Also, I'm told close to the eye is the most common place for this, so when you put on sunscreen, get it close to the eyes, even though it means when you start sweating it'll get into your eyes and burn like hell.
Now, haven't any of you written any queries or openings you want critiqued?
*looks at snot-covered query letter*
*attempts to decipher smeared ink*
I, um, as soon as I can figure out what this was supposed to say.
Late to the conversation (as usual) but best wishes for complete & uneventful recovery!
Also late, also very happy about your happy ending. If I knew how to photoshop I would add a muttonchop to the selfie; I think it's even more terrifying than the laser eyes. Keep well!
EE, how scary!! "Glad you're okay" doesn't even begin to cover it, but I am. Very much so.
Late here - SO glad you have come through this!! xxx
SO glad you are OK! (That's one helluva first selfie, by the way, fella!) xxx
OK, hopefully fourth try(to comment) is a charm! It's hard as hell to post a comment here, EE, unless one isn't hopelessly the opposite of tech savvy!!
Anyway, SO sorry to hear about your health issues - and SO glad you beat the hell out of that cancer enemy.
You got a facelift, too?
Yes, but it was free.
After you comment, Robin, you wait for me to approve your comment. It's a system I use so you don't have to read all the comments from political candidates trying to get me to endorse them.
EE: If we're signed in through our Google account, a lot of our comments are being kicked back. My first try yesterday got bounced to my Yahoo email as a failure to deliver. After a good cry and some time to convince myself that wasn't a personal condemnation, I chose Name/URL instead, and the comment went right into moderation like it should. As I assume this one will. Uh, did it?
Though as you can see, Robin's comments were getting through. Three of them, anyway.
My comment disappeared into the ether. Glad to see your beautiful and healing orb, oh Evil Overlord.
So, uh, the facelift didn't come first, right? I mean, there isn't the possibility that what you actually had removed was a post-facelift nipple?
Right. But since the facelift was only on one side of the face and the other side still looks like a bloodhound, this is gonna take some getting used to.
You know you have to come up with a story for that scar that doesn't involve cancer, and ends with 'you should have seen the other guy'. Sorry you had to go through this.
Claim it is a dueling scar from Grisham.
I too was having trouble commenting, so I emailed. Not sure it got through with all the wonky Internet I've been experiencing.
Glad to hear you're on the mend, EE. Fingers crossed you continue to heal with no complications.
"...putting on a brave face in the face of overwhelming odds..." That pretty much describes every editor.
Glad you're still with us, EE.
Glad to hear the cancer's gone the way of the slush pile...
Glad you're ok EE
My dear not so Evil,
Basal cell is the simplest cancer to have cured/eliminated. My sister had this basal cell thing (tumour) removed from the top of her head like about 40 years ago. It is a "topical" I'll call it condition. If caught in time. Wait? My ass. No condition of this sort should have a wait list. A dermatologist (specialist) could have taken care of this quickly and without the wait. Likely without the excessive bruising. It is not a complicated procedure.
There was no need to make you wait, scare you death and charge for photos. I'd sue the buggers. Big time. If you go that route, make sure your lawyer gets the "expert" witness declared an expert. Then go for it. Hard,
Fake news? Nothing compared to the agony you and your loved ones suffered unnecessarily. Not to mention expense. Man I'd be a pit bull on a wild hog over this.
Evil, get a new med team to follow up. These cowboys may not have done the job thoroughly. A second opinion is a good idea. Please.
Please, you are loved and did not deserve this treatment, which I am sure wasn't cheap.
By waiting they drive the price up as the cells grow. Making you get naked is pure abuse. I am so sorry and furious this was your "treatment".
That bruising, so very sad. It won't come back if they got it all. That is my worry for you.
Please please don't rely on their conclusion. Get another opinion. The sooner the better.
In my prayers, unforgivable their cavalier approach.
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