tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post115748648401680049..comments2024-03-18T13:32:44.865-04:00Comments on Evil Editor: Face-Lift 178Evil Editorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03879826770199639420noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157610808297596042006-09-07T02:33:00.000-04:002006-09-07T02:33:00.000-04:00The setup bugged me, too, but not because it's imp...The setup bugged me, too, but not because it's implausible. Living in a socially conservative area, I know men that hidebound and women desperate enough to start every relationship with a big, deliberate lie.<BR/><BR/>However... I don't choose to read about desperate, stupid women who otherwise have it all. My mystery readers' group calls them TSTL's: Too Stupid To Live (or Like). <BR/><BR/>In mysteries or romantic suspense novels, these are the emperiled heroines who go alone, sans cellphone, to meet suspects in remote locations after dark, telling no-one. In romance, these are the women who lie, cheat, conceal their children or their husbands or the mad mother-in-law in the attic, and yet end up living happily ever after with the man they lied to for the first 250 pages. <BR/><BR/>I as a reader don't like these TSTL women. I don't care about their woes. I don't identify with their dumb decisions. When the whole conflict of the book is based on a premise I find well below the IQ waterline, I don't identify with or sympathize with the protagonist. I think they'd get what they deserved in 10 minutes or less in real life, and I won't waste any more than 10 minutes on reading about them.<BR/><BR/>Sorry. I choose to read about women I can have some respect for, even if they don't always make the right decisions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157605173859667252006-09-07T00:59:00.000-04:002006-09-07T00:59:00.000-04:00Believability aside, my problem with this is that ...Believability aside, my problem with this is that the heroine here comes off as incredibly weak. I mean, she meets a couple of sexist jerks and she decides that the fact that she's smart and successful is the problem? And to fix it she has to go through some elaborate and degrading farce? No thanks. Now, maybe if you stole a page from "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" and had her pretend to be unemployed to win a bet with a friend who doesn't believe her that men prefer goldigging slackers*... That I could maybe get into.<BR/><BR/>*Of course, she would have to end up falling for the guy. And then he turns out to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, pretending to be an artist.Daisy Batemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10031425541717458261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157598824817809502006-09-06T23:13:00.000-04:002006-09-06T23:13:00.000-04:00mercury, I don't think region is necessarily the p...mercury, I don't think region is necessarily the problem here. I live in the South, I'm nearly 40, have dated guys up into their 50s and have yet to find any who are intimidated by a gal who makes more money than them, unless the discrepancy is really big and includes a class difference. And I would be put off by that myself. Ask me why I never dated a rich man, LOL!<BR/><BR/>It's really more of an urban thing. If you're going to set the story in a major urban center of several million people, I'm going to have trouble believing that every man Becca meets is going to freak that she has a condo and a job.<BR/><BR/>If it were me, I'd set the story in a conservative small town, or maybe a small city that is losing its blue collar economic base. Becca has a fancy job with one of the "new" businesses and the men whose jobs are being outsourced to Mexico can't compete, and are resentful that she's doing so well.<BR/><BR/>Or if you mainly want this to be funny, go ahead and set it in Chicago or some other urban area. Have Becca's mom, sister and friends all be lawyers and bank VPs married to substitute teachers and happy househusbands. Yet somehow Becca only seems to attract the Neanderthals. Frustrated and fed up, she resolves to make the next relationship work, no matter what she has to do.<BR/><BR/>As EE says, "Hilarity ensues."Ann (bunnygirl)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04938134750150653386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157586510056620782006-09-06T19:48:00.000-04:002006-09-06T19:48:00.000-04:00Kis, you're uncanny. I've just read an article abo...Kis, you're uncanny. I've just read an article about two women who 'retrained' their husbands and wrote a best seller, 'The Scorecard: How to fix your man in one year or less.'<BR/><BR/>The interviewer is a high flyer too and has problems within her own marriage. "All our men resent the woman earning more than they do; seem incapable of taking out the rubbish; no longer talk to us."<BR/><BR/>Perhaps Becca can get some hints?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157580611476648272006-09-06T18:10:00.000-04:002006-09-06T18:10:00.000-04:00I am great with pets, although the only kind of pa...I am <B>great</B> with pets, although the only kind of parakeet I like is fried.braunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00387344142594757730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157578562031017882006-09-06T17:36:00.000-04:002006-09-06T17:36:00.000-04:00Maybe in yours, kis, but apparently not in many ot...<EM>Maybe in yours, kis, but apparently not in many other people's.</EM><BR/><BR/>If a random sample were polled, I bet more people would agree with Kis than disagree. It doesn't hold for everyone in the narrow demographic that visits EE's blog - that doesn't mean it's not plausible. I bet most people here take birth control for granted, too.HawkOwlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506953701159624542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157576642581225622006-09-06T17:04:00.000-04:002006-09-06T17:04:00.000-04:00"It's not right. But unfortunately, it still is a ..."It's not right. But unfortunately, it still is a fact of life."<BR/><BR/>Maybe in yours, kis, but apparently not in many other people's.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157574904881967192006-09-06T16:35:00.000-04:002006-09-06T16:35:00.000-04:00Actually, the issues these days are not so much wi...Actually, the issues these days are not so much with male co-workers, but with boyfriends and husbands. Marie-Anne may be a finish carpenter and have no problems. That might not be the case if she was the boss. Especially if one of her, um, underlings was her husband.<BR/><BR/>All questions of EE's sexual proclivities aside, even men who want to be dominated by stiletto-clad, puffy-lipped Angelina Jolie look-alikes get their backs up when their wives come home with a bigger, ahem, paycheque than they do, or with news of a promotion when their husbands' careers have stalled. There are women out there who go to great pains to conceal from their spouses the fact that they are the true breadwinners of the family.<BR/><BR/>Not every man (or woman) out there is 25 and openminded. My husband is in his fifties--17 years older than me--and it still galls him that I can make more money in a four-hour shift than he can in eight. If I'm ever published, I know he'll be overjoyed, but there will always be a part of him that worries I will ourank him in some way. That I'll seize the reins of the family and leave him no proverbial pants, or that I'll leave him altogether for someone better or smarter or younger or richer. I understand that this is his problem, and I don't indulge it, but I can empathize. <BR/><BR/>Male roles are seen as strong. Female roles are seen as weak. When women have invaded all the male roles and displaced them men, there's no role for them to fill that won't seem to them a demotion. It's not fair. It's not right. But unfortunately, it still is a fact of life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157570546321684322006-09-06T15:22:00.000-04:002006-09-06T15:22:00.000-04:00Braun, are you good with pets, too? If so, we have...Braun, are you good with pets, too? If so, we have a deal! =)<BR/><BR/>For those of you who have trouble with this concept: Would you find it easier to believe if it was set in the South? I live in the South, but I set it in Chicago for various reasons of convenience...now I'm starting to wonder.Lizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08930190448569739300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157557320569758332006-09-06T11:42:00.000-04:002006-09-06T11:42:00.000-04:00Mercury - I am a very progressive kind of guy and ...Mercury - I am a very progressive kind of guy and totally open to this arrangement. You work, I'll stay at home and write. Call me!<BR/><BR/><B>* is teasing *</B>braunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00387344142594757730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157556085344182152006-09-06T11:21:00.000-04:002006-09-06T11:21:00.000-04:00My solution would be to date younger men.My solution would be to date younger men.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157556955514677992006-09-06T11:35:00.000-04:002006-09-06T11:35:00.000-04:00I agree with most of the other posters here. I lo...I agree with most of the other posters here. <BR/><BR/>I love the reversing of tropes and cliches. At one point in the future, I plan to write a fantasy novel in which the nemesis is part of a plucky band of adventurers, and the hero is one of many "Good minions" that a "good overlord" dispatches, one by one, in order from weakest to strongest. I like the concept of turning a cliche or trope on its head in order to poke fun at it and make something original at the same time. Pratchett is famous for this.<BR/><BR/>But, really: a woman, in Chicago of all places, who is consistantly finding men intimidated by her success? And it's not like she's a multimillionaire and they're construction workers, either -- she has a job, a condo, and a car. Woo. And then this woman, who seems like the type who should be self confident, decides to hide it all?<BR/><BR/>You'd have to do a masterful job to make this fly with me.Reihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17005292189176596201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157554898642992922006-09-06T11:01:00.000-04:002006-09-06T11:01:00.000-04:00I'm sorry, but I'm not buying that guys in Chicago...I'm sorry, but I'm not buying that guys in Chicago are intimidated by a gal with a job and a Mustang. A CEO job and a Porsche, maybe, but a Mustang and a condo?<BR/><BR/>What era is this???<BR/><BR/>I live in the South and have NEVER seen a man put off by a moderately successful woman. Nor have any of my friends. <BR/><BR/>For me to believe this premise, I'd need more information. Maybe instead of Chicago, she lives in a small, conservative town? Maybe she only dates within a narrow ethnic or religious group with old-fashioned notions? Maybe the story is set in the 1950s? Is it just this one guy who has this narrow mind-set? Or maybe Becca's perception is skewed and she's been told to expect men to be intimidated, so she just assumes they are? (Could be hilarious, IMO.)<BR/><BR/>Any of these scenarios would work. But it seriously strains my credibility to think that in present-day Chicago (where I have friends and family, btw), men are put off by Mustang-driving women.<BR/><BR/>I know this is fiction, but if you're going to set this in a real place in a real era, you have to make sure people will believe you know what your talking about. Otherwise, you might as well put the Sistine Chapel in Chicago, too. Go for broke, right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157548597374719882006-09-06T09:16:00.000-04:002006-09-06T09:16:00.000-04:00While the premise demands a certain amount of susp...While the premise demands a certain amount of suspension of belief--for me, about the unemployment lie more than the intimidated man thing--I have to say that the query itself is really rather good!<BR/><BR/>Just add in that specific that EE mentioned, and change the generic title. The genre will allow a certain amount of silliness. I guess I've met enough men like your Daniel that the silliness is not too much for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157545064041237972006-09-06T08:17:00.000-04:002006-09-06T08:17:00.000-04:00I liked #3 and #5.Anyway. I agree with marie-anne...I liked #3 and #5.<BR/><BR/>Anyway. I agree with marie-anne. What I would give for my wife to have a career so I could slack off.<BR/><BR/>I think someone made the point that the "slacker/artist" is the wrong type that would be intimidated by a career woman, on the contrary! He would think he died and went to heaven.<BR/><BR/>I wouldn't read this but that is not to say that it isn't well written. It's the plot that's got me turned off. -JTCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157536635330864582006-09-06T05:57:00.000-04:002006-09-06T05:57:00.000-04:00If you want to make this premise work, you have to...If you want to make this premise work, you have to make her super-successful. Most men these days can handle a women with a good job, car, and home, but maybe not a woman who is the youngest CEO in Chicago or something as daunting as that. Otherwise, I'd think she's just been dating the wrong guys.<BR/>Good luck with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157530331143235932006-09-06T04:12:00.000-04:002006-09-06T04:12:00.000-04:00This is Fiction. Yanno, where the reader's suppose...This is Fiction. Yanno, where the reader's supposed to suspend their disbelief. If it's not for you, fine - but, judging by the hordes of senior citizens around the Romance section, it's bound to appeal to someone. Not me, of course. It's market research...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157516971845464432006-09-06T00:29:00.000-04:002006-09-06T00:29:00.000-04:00I'm sure this attitude still exists in some places...I'm sure this attitude still exists in some places, but boy, you'd have to be *awfully* funny to make it entertaining for me--it just sounds excruciating. But I'm probably not in your target audience. I have a PhD; my husband of 16 years is a college dropout. We cope fine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157516193569525832006-09-06T00:16:00.000-04:002006-09-06T00:16:00.000-04:00Yeah, but then, welders are smarter than people wi...Yeah, but then, welders are smarter than people with degrees. And if they're good welders, they make a lot more money. Maybe your sister-in-law's man is just a slacker. (Either my current or my ex is a welder, the other is a professor. Guess which one has the brains and the cash?)HawkOwlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506953701159624542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157514561705978022006-09-05T23:49:00.000-04:002006-09-05T23:49:00.000-04:00I'd hoped for #6.I have mixed opinions on the plot...I'd hoped for #6.<BR/><BR/>I have mixed opinions on the plot. In the south, yes, a lot of men I know want to be the "bread winners" and do get a little pissy if their wives make more. I can see this being an issue.<BR/><BR/>However, my strongest thought on this was, "What? She's that big a bitch?" If a guy really likes a girl, he won't care how successful she is, and will support her work and her ambition. So, he must not like her enough - does her ambition and control overflow to ALL areas of her life, including dating, and she comes off as a harsh bitch to guys? <BR/><BR/>Like I said, not sure how I feel about it.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17083327647412477394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157511209871201302006-09-05T22:53:00.000-04:002006-09-05T22:53:00.000-04:00I'm with Marie-Anne; I don't find this premise ev...I'm with Marie-Anne; I don't find this premise even slightly believable. <BR/><BR/>My sister-in-law has a pair of degrees and great-paying job. She's married to a welder. His take on the disparity between their incomes and prestige levels is simply: "I know! Did I hit the jackpot, or what?"<BR/><BR/>The only way I could see this story making logical sense is if Becca is a idiot and her boyfriends-who-can't-handle-successful-women are chauvinist losers who she is better off without anyway.<BR/><BR/>I'm not eager to read a book where either the plot makes no sense or the characters are profoundly unsympathetic. It seems like this premise would force the resulting book to be one of the two.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157510756593101802006-09-05T22:45:00.000-04:002006-09-05T22:45:00.000-04:00thanks, everyone, for your comments! I really appr...thanks, everyone, for your comments! I really appreciate all the input. <BR/><BR/>first of all, the title is working only -- I haven't settled on anything I really love and do intend to change it, so all suggestions are welcome.<BR/><BR/>second, sadly, I do think this is a real problem. it's happened to me, it's happened to my friends. part of it may be living in an area of the country where traditional values are prevalent, but guys seem to hate not being the breadwinner in the relationship in many cases.<BR/><BR/>I wouldn't choose Becca's solution to the problem...but hey, that's why it's fiction. <BR/><BR/>and anonymous, I don't know your brother; want to introduce us? ;)Lizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08930190448569739300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157510247817143582006-09-05T22:37:00.000-04:002006-09-05T22:37:00.000-04:00I'm trying to figure out what the hell she sees in...I'm trying to figure out what the hell she sees in this guy. Most women (me included)who have worked hard to get to where they are, are confident enough and proud enough of their accomplishments that they aren't going to hide them to get a man. And honestly, they will want men who have probably accomplished some things themselves. Otherwise, what is the attraction? Is he just really good in bed? <BR/><BR/>I wouldn't read this book simply because I know I won't care about a main character who is so desperate to find a man that she is willing to hide every thing that is true about her life. It's like Pink's song, "Stupid Girls". I don't want to be one and I don't want to read about one either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157508447619231182006-09-05T22:07:00.000-04:002006-09-05T22:07:00.000-04:00Improving my guessing average-got this one correct...Improving my guessing average-got this one correct.<BR/><BR/>Don't like the character name or the title of the book. Could like the story if it is funny as promised.<BR/><BR/>I think you're overstating the challenge, too with one of the most challenging dilemmas language(this coming from a woman with a doctorate degree and a professional job that sometimes scares people).<BR/><BR/>"may be exaggerated"--is it? or not?<BR/><BR/>I say up the ante-spoof, exaggerate, blow things out of proportion in the story-and then let us enjoy it with an understated query.<BR/><BR/>jmho<BR/><BR/>good luck.<BR/><BR/>Hey, my word verification is himism--maybe that's what Becca engages in with her deception!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26791026.post-1157507682543094032006-09-05T21:54:00.000-04:002006-09-05T21:54:00.000-04:00I don't know if I'd read it, but the plot is dead ...I don't know if I'd read it, but the plot is dead on. :) Good luck with it.HawkOwlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506953701159624542noreply@blogger.com